Achieving Low Self-Esteem

samson back jpgI read a great story this week about how pride holds us back from becoming people that God has called us to be. (from The Reason for God by Tim Keller).

“Andrew Delbanco is a humanities professor at Columbia University. Some years ago he was doing research on Alcoholics Anonymous and was attending AA meetings around the country. One Saturday morning in a New York City church basement he was listening to a ‘crisply dressed young man’ who was talking about his problems. In his narrative he was absolutely faultless. All his mistakes were due to the injustice and betrayals of others. He spoke of how he was going to avenge himself on all who had wronged him. ‘His every gesture gave the impression of grievously wounded pride,’ Delbanco wrote. It was clear that the young man was trapped in his need to justify himself, and that things could only get worse and worse in his life until he recognized this. While he was speaking, a black man in his forties, in dreadlocks and dark shades, leaned over to Delbanco and said, ‘I used to feel that way too, before I achieved low self-esteem.’

I love that sentence. That’s something to talk to your therapist about. “I’d like to learn about how to achieve low self-esteem.”

“By ‘low self-esteem’ the man in the dreadlocks did not mean the young man should come to hate himself. He meant that the well-dressed young man was ‘lost in himself’ until he could admit he was a very flawed human being, a sinner. He would never be liberated to see his own flaws in their true light, for forgive those who had wronged him, or to humbly seek and receive forgiveness from others.”

These are the ones I look on with favor: those who are humble and contrite in spirit. Isaiah 66:2

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i love my church smallChrist. We will build our lives, our families and our community on the foundation of God’s Word.  We will authentically face the journey of becoming fully devoted followers of Christ. -2 Timothy 3:16-17, Mark 8:33-35, Acts 2:42-47

 Church. We are spiritual contributors not spiritual consumers. The church does not exist for us. We are the church and we exist for the world. The local church is the hope of the world and we can accomplish infinitely more together than apart. – Ephesians 4:11-12, Ephesians 4:16, John 13:14-15

Acceptance. We will love people when they least expect it and least deserve it.  Every person is infinitely important to Christ and to critically important to the story God is writing in this world. -John 13:34-35, John 4:1-26

Community. We will gather in life groups because spiritual growth happens best in community relationships. We will laugh hard, loud and often. Nothing is more fun than serving God with people you love!        -Mark 3:13-14, Hebrews 10:24-25, John 10:10

Outreach. We will do anything short of sin to reach people without Christ. To reach people no one is reaching we will have to do things no one is doing. -1 Corinthians 9:19,22-23, Luke 15

Sacrifice. We will lead with irrational generosity. We can’t out-give God. We truly believe it is more blessed to give than to receive. We will give up things we love for things we love more It’s an honor to sacrifice for Christ and His church. -Acts 4:32,36, Acts 5:28-29, 40-41

Risk. We are faith-filled, risk takers who will never insult God with small thinking and safe living. Because God is always doing a new thing, we will continually adapt and rethink church in an ever-changing culture. We will communicate the changeless message of Christ in relevant and changing ways. – Hebrews 11, Acts 4:1-22, Isaiah 43:18-19

December: A Month of Giving

One of the greatest joys of life is being part of community of faith that loves to live generous lives. It was so evident this December at Epic.We are blessed to be a blessing. Here are a few highlights from the December blessing reel…

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  • You shared the love of Christ at the Rochester Christmas Parade by giving away 1200 cups of free hot chocolate.
  • You bought Christmas gifts for over 60 inner city children in Pontiac.
  • You gave tons of gifts to help bring Christmas to two families with major financial struggles.  (one in Detroit & one in Sterling Heights).
  • Epic Explorers kids raised money so that they could purchase a pig for an overseas village through World Vision.
  • You generously gave to this years Christmas Offering to expand outreach and upgrade Epic Explorers in 2013. I can’t wait to announce the results this Sunday.

This most generous God who gives seed to the farmer that becomes bread for your meals is more than extravagant with you. He gives you something you can then give away, which grows into full-formed lives, robust in God, wealthy in every way, so that you can be generous in every way, producing with us great praise to God. 2 Corinthians 9:10-11

7 Ways to Kill Your Joy this Christmas

When angels appeared to shepherds 2000 years ago to announce the birth of Christ, they said “I bring you good news that will bring great JOY to ALL people. The Savior—yes, the Messiah, the Lord—has been born today in Bethlehem.” God extends an invitation of joy to everyone, but why don’t most people, even those who are Christ followers, experience that kind of joy.

There are 7 ways I short-circuit the joy Christ wants to give me.

  1. Live in your circumstances…instead of living in Christ.
  2. Complain about things…instead of encouraging people.
  3. Assume the worst in people…instead of looking for the best in people.
  4. Look to have your needs met…instead of living to meet the needs of others.
  5. Focus on receiving…instead of focusing on giving.
  6. Be in control…instead of allowing God be in control of your life.
  7. Make is all about all the trappings of the season…instead growing closer to the One who came to Earth for you.

I will go to God…the Source of ALL my joy.” Psalm 43:4

New Series: Can Smart People Believe in God?

 Believing a Santa at age 5…Smart.

Believing in God at age 25…Smart?  

Can a reflective thoughtful person who values science and learning believe in God? Whether you’re a skeptic asking questions or a believer wanting to go deeper, join us this Christmas season, as we look openly and honestly at questions and objections about God, belief and faith.

  • Dec 9 –  Is Faith Nonsense?
  • Dec 16 – Why Jesus Makes Sense
  • Dec 24 4pm – Christmas Eve Celebration 

5 Things Facebook Taught Me

The last few months I’ve been away from my blog, mainly because blogging has turned into microblogging on Twitter & Facebook. Four years of Tweeting & Facebooking has taught me a couple things.

1.  Life is not meant to be lived alone. I’ve caught up with old friends I haven’t seen in years, met new people on the other side of the world and ironically grown closer to the people who live next store. Life is better together.

2. Life change happens best in community.  In ministry, my goal is to inspire others on their spiritual journey, but social media creates a two-way street. Countless times the new insights you share challenge me as a leader and Christ follower. I’m a different person because of you.  

3. Walls were meant to be broken.  In America, we tend to stay in our little cliques of people who believe & think the same way we do. Having a wide range of friends has forced me to rethink old positions and discover new directions.

4.  Less is More. 140 characters is tough, but as a writer it is a great discipline for organizing your thoughts and choosing your words carefully. 

5. Laugh. People are funny and say some hilarious stuff. SERIOUSLY. You make me laugh!